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I never thought I’d be a late bloomer. I’m #4 of 6 kids in my family, and started babysitting other people’s kids when I was 9. Mom did daycare for a bunch of other kids and there were always kids at the house from the neighborhood. I LOVED it. So I guess I always just assumed that I would have a slew of rugrats by my mid-20’s. But then I didn’t marry until I was 26, we moved out of state and our focus was on other things. We decided NOT to try to start a family. We focused on our careers and school, and worked 80 hour work weeks and LOVED it.
Until the hubby, Jon, and I decided to accept a promotion for to a new state. I was able to stay working for the same company but at a much lesser capacity. My world slowed WAY down… And I realized something. I want babies. I’ve done everything else I wanted to. Now was the right time. I was a late bloomer, but I wanted to start a family.
Let’s Do This!
Ok! So we’d made the decision. So let’s just do it! Right?! Um, wrong. We tried on our own for about a year until I finally went to see a reproductive specialist. I had a fibroid in my uterus the size of a golfball that may be impacting our chances. Ok, let’s get rid of it! Surgery went well, and recuperation well smoothly. And 8 weeks later I was pregnant!! We were over the moon, and ready for the adventure! But then, when I was 8 weeks, on a business trip to CA by myself, I miscarried. In a hotel room. It was awful, and I couldn’t understand why it was happening.
The doc said it wasn’t anything I could have done, these things happen. Just keep trying. So we tried for another year on our own with no results. We went back to the reproductive specialist and the recommended an IUI (intra-uterine insemination). Two attempts and no positive results. So we discussed IVF (in vitro fertilization). It’s EXPENSIVE… But we believed it was worth it. $17,000 on a credit card, tons of hormonal medications and injections, and a painful egg retrieval got us 9 embryos. We decided to cross our fingers and transfer 2 embryos… And it worked! We got pregnant, with TWINS!! We, again, were so dang excited.
But at our 8 week ultrasound, where we should see and hear a heartbeat (or TWO!!), there were none. Just two empty sacs. We were heartbroken all over again. No one could explain it, the testing gave us no information. We had been trying and attempting new things for 4 years, and nothing was working…We were spent.
…Fast forward to today. It’s 3 years later. We intended to jump right back into another IVF attempt since we still have 7 embryos, but we just couldn’t. We needed a break. And that planned 6 months turned to 3 years in a flash. Jon is 41 and I’m 39. If we’re going to do this, we’ve got to do it NOW. At this point we’ll be high school graduation at 58 and 59, when most people are grandparents… But we are NOT giving up. We may be late bloomers, but we’re still hoping to bloom.
We’ve finally taken the steps to start a new round of doctor appointments to get back into the swing of it. We’re going to try a medication only approach first, and see how that goes. We’re cautiously optimistic and hopeful. We HAVE to be, otherwise we’d have stopped by now. It will likely be a tedious journey but we are pushing forward. I’ve found lots of support online, including this Facebook group called Moms in the Making. It’s full of positivity, support and good information to keep us moving forward. It’s not all late bloomers, like me, but also many other women from every other possible circumstance. I’d love to see you there!
I’ll update when we have finished our testing phase. If you’d like to chat or connect regarding YOUR fertility journey, contact me!! Until next time…